We live in an extroverted world. Everything is fast paced, loud, and bright. Success is often achieved by those who can stand out more, sell themselves better, and make more social connections. This success is maintained by continuing to stand out, sell more, and make even more social connections.
Hey! What about us introverts? What if standing out more doesn’t align with who we are? What if we don’t feel right about selling ourselves? What if making social connections for the sake of business somehow feels fake? Extroverts often believe that introverts, who can appear shy, have a low self-esteem. Or that there is something wrong with their desire to be alone and soak in the quiet. (Oh, my, do I love it when it’s quiet!). I do not believe these things. The noise of other people’s mere presence can be a distraction from a peaceful state of mind for the introvert.
I look out into the world and I think, how can I possibly compete with all that busyness/noise/flamboyance? I don’t even want to compete! I want to attract people who are able to see beyond the smoke and mirrors and get real about where they want to go in their lives, how to be and stay healthy, and what really matters. Perhaps it is other introverts I seek as clients – people who want to move forward, but can’t seem to move past the quiet and stillness of their own personal space.
I think the journey to “success” might be a little slower for the introvert. The path is full of baby-steps, small achievable tasks with plenty of time for reflection and recovery. Like in the story of the tortoise and the hare, the tortoise reaches the finish line eventually. He also gets to enjoy the peace of his shell the entire ride. And at the end? I imagine that after all the extroverts encourage him to celebrate his win, he wants nothing more than to retreat to a nice quiet spot on the lake for a swim.
If I can do it, you can do it!
“In a gentle way, you can shake the world.”- Mahatma Gandhi
“Don’t think of introversion as something that needs to be cured…Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you’re supposed to.” – Susan Cain